Adulting is a word that sounds simple and is used in almost every other sentence by people over 20. I’m sure we all told our parents one thing in our teens: “I want to be an adult and live my life freely with no restrictions.” But we never knew what we were asking for. I swear, I knew all perks have their downsides, but being an adult is not simple. I still laugh at my younger self’s urge to grow up. Yes, I’m an adult now, living 600 km away from my family, paying my own rent, making my own food, and living on my own. Not only this, I have to make sure my water bill is paid and that I have any veggies in the fridge when my maid asks what to cook today. Honestly, I’m not a big fan of it. I do miss my childhood when I didn’t have any responsibilities. But wait, this doesn’t mean I’m escaping responsibility; it’s just a thought. Why is a human being never happy with anything? When you are a kid, you want to be an adult, and when you are an adult, you want to go back to your childhood. Yes, for the past few days, I've wanted to get this thought out of my mind, and here I am doing so.
On the contrary, I enjoyed my initial adulting phases. I loved having my own space and room, arranged just the way I wanted it, and of course, enjoying my alone coffee dates in the balcony, pondering life. I also liked that no one asked me to clean cupboards every week or fill water bottles all day. Yes I was an adult now, receiving my salary every month after a lot of hard work. It always felt good to pay my own bills. But adulting doesn’t stop there. It’s not only about paying your bills; it’s about managing everything in your life, from your emotional state to your physical needs. It’s about work-life balance. It’s about how you are not just living a monotonous life of getting up, going to work, and coming back home to sleep, but how you are growing while doing all of the above.
We’ve all seen adulting depicted in Bollywood movies, whether it be Rani in "Queen" or Sid in "Wake Up Sid," and we learned that shit happens, but you should know how to survive it. The idea of these films was right, but the approach shown must be way easier. Today, no friends may take you in for a month if you don’t pay rent. I’m not saying that the world now doesn’t have good people, but the reality is hard. Moving abroad alone sounds fun in Rani’s life, but it’s harder in any of our lives.
My only purpose in writing this blog is to rant a little about how adulting is hitting hard for me and many of you like me. We all have relationship problems, work problems, and family problems, but how to keep sanity in all this is a task to learn. I’ve learned one thing that keeps me going in this mess of adulting: my confidence and a little manifestation, which is helping me.
Of course, today I find many articles and videos online that talk about good healthy lifestyle routines that help you survive adulting with ease, like waking up early in the morning, exercising on time, eating good food, journaling your problems, etc. Yes, again it may sound easy and compelling for many of you but doing all this is not a cakewalk for me.
I am trying to do some of it but still struggle…
Okay, I am done with my ranting. Let me know if you have any better ways to tackle adulting. Maybe we can all solve it together.
Don’t forget to comment and let me know your thoughts on it.
I know you will handle every problem calmly though you are doing it and going with the flow..just keep it my girl and Thankyou for letting us know what the reality is!!